Wednesday, May 21, 2014


With the impending arrival of this little baby (seriously, any day now!), A and I have spent a lot of time discussing how much we feel comfortable sharing with the world and how exactly we want to share that information. We've done a lot of reading, talking, and researching and we've come to a conclusion that a lot of you won't like: it won't be a lot. Allow me to explain.

I've never felt comfortable sharing photos on the internet. I have always been reluctant to show faces, names, and any details, really. Maybe it's a control thing. Actually, yes, it is a control thing. I just don't like the fact that I can't control who sees what. And now that we will be responsible for a tiny little human, I feel even more strongly about it. So, in order to protect him as best we can, we've decided not to post anything that identifies him in any way. No photos, no names, no details about him at all really. You just never know who's watching. There are a lot of creepers out there. I realize that many of you may think this may be a little extreme. There are many out there who don't feel the same way we do and that's just fine. To each his own. No judgement. But for us and our family, this feels right.

We still want to find a way to share updates of our family in this space, I think we just have to find a balance that makes sense for us. We have to find what feels comfortable. This blogger does a really great job of sharing updates on her children while still protecting their identities. I think I'd be comfortable with something similar so we'll just have to feel it out and see where we end up. Lots of vague phrases, I know, but it's hard to be firm on something that hasn't happened yet.

We realize that since a lot of our family and close friends live far away, they might only get the chance to see little M through photos and videos. And while our choice might rob you of that opportunity here, we want you to know that we are looking into other ways to safely and securely share those moments with you. We aren't sure what the answer is yet -- password protected sites, shared cloud storage, email -- but we're working on it. Again, this will probably be a process of trying a few options and seeing what works best. All that we ask is that, if you have access to these photos and videos, you respect our decision about privacy. Feel free to download and print photos, just don't repost them anywhere, especially in a public setting. And we ask that you refrain from posting any photos or videos of him that you may take yourself.

We promise we won't completely ignore the fact that we have a new baby. That wouldn't be an accurate representation of our lives. So, we will still be sharing our experience of becoming new parents and the things we learn along the way, along with other life events including home improvements and personal accomplishments (hello returning to running!). And thanks for supporting our decision and continuing to visit this space!

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